The Ultimate Knowledge Is Self Knowledge

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The ultimate knowledge is self knowledge…

I’m a huge Bruce Lee fan, so I wanted to kick off this week’s topic with a bit of wisdom from Bruce Lee himself.

“The Ultimate Knowledge Is Self Knowledge”

I learned this quote when I was in my teens, but it wasn’t until I was in my late 20s that I truly understood the power of this quote and it’s one of the things that helped me go on to create the Emotional Trigger Method.

It’s this insight that can help you achieve your dreams, whether they’re finding love, hitting your career goals or discovering your passions – by learning about yourself, you can learn how to achieve what you want most.

 

Why Self Awareness Isn’t Emotional Self Awareness

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Why self-awareness is not emotional awareness…

Self-awareness has become a new hot topic and people everywhere are discovering the benefits that can be learned from being self-aware of your own flaws and strengths.

However, I find that self-awareness is being taught only within the realm of your abilities and talents – the things that you can do.

In this episode, I want to flip the coin and take a look at the lesser talked about sibling to self-awareness: Emotional Self Awareness. Let’s explore why emotional self-awareness is much more fulfilling and rewarding for you to be able to open up and be truly vulnerable and honest with your loved ones.

How Can I Be Vulnerable? (from a man’s perspective)

*Note: Any mention of the emotional trigger method is now the Debox Method* 
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How can I be vulnerable (from a man’s perspective)?

In today’s episode, I want to talk about vulnerability. And I particularly want to talk about what it means to be vulnerable from a man’s perspective for other men.

As men, we’re taught to be very stoic and never appear weak, but the fact of the matter is that this is a very unhealthy and unsatisfying way to live, and the male suicide numbers absolutely prove that without a shadow of a doubt.

So if you’re struggling to be vulnerable and don’t know how to do it, then take a listen and let’s talk about what it means to be vulnerable and get rid of the stigma.

Learn How Men Can Open up and release the struggle inside using the Debox Method and become the man you were born to be! 

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Should You Ever Message Back When You’re Angry?

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Should you ever message back when you’re angry?

One of the most common questions I’ve been asked by the people I’ve worked with is “Should I ever message back when I’m Angry?”

And the simple answer is, no!

However, discovering the root cause of your anger and learning coping methods in order to resist writing back, even when you’re blinded with rage, is a tough barrier to overcome before you can effectively control your feelings.

In this episode, I want to talk about how you can avoid writing back in a fit of rage and instead hold off for another day when you’ve calmed down. It’ll do you the world of good and save you from a life of headaches.

 

Being Ignored Triggers Me. Do This To Resolve it.

Being Ignored Triggers Me.
Do This To Resolve It.

note: name changed from Emotional Trigger Method 
to the Debox Method*

 

In this episode, we’re looking at a question that many listeners have asked us: Why do I get so upset when people ignore me?

 

 

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you’re being ignored by someone? Maybe you sent a text message and didn’t get a response, or you walked into a room and no one acknowledged you. How did that make you feel?

 

Did you feel upset, angry, or hurt?

 

Feeling ignored can be a frustrating and difficult experience, and it’s not uncommon for people to feel upset or triggered in these situations. But why do we feel this way?

 

Let’s take a closer look.

 

First, it’s important to understand that feeling ignored can trigger our social pain pathways. Humans are social animals, and we have evolved to thrive in social environments where we feel a sense of belonging and connection with others.

 

When we are ignored, this social connection is disrupted, and our brains interpret this as a threat to our social status and identity.

 

 

This social pain can be just as real and intense as physical pain. In fact, research has shown that the same neural pathways that are activated when we experience physical pain are also activated when we experience social pain. This means that feeling ignored can literally hurt.

 

 

In addition to the social pain that comes with being ignored, there are also cognitive and emotional factors at play. For example, feeling ignored can trigger feelings of rejection and inadequacy. When we don’t receive a response to our message or don’t get acknowledged when we enter a room, we might start to wonder if we’re not important or valued by the people around us.

 

This can lead to feelings of sadness, anger, or even shame.

 

 

Another possible reason why people might feel upset or triggered when they’re ignored is that it can activate their attachment system. The attachment system is a set of behaviors and emotions that we use to form and maintain close relationships with others. When we feel like we’re being ignored, our attachment system can be activated in an attempt to reestablish the connection.

 

 

This might manifest as seeking out attention or reassurance from others, or even becoming more persistent in our attempts to reach out to the person who ignored us. These behaviors can sometimes be seen as clingy or needy, but they are a natural response to the perceived threat to our social connection.

 

 

So, what can we do to cope with feeling ignored? One strategy is to recognize that our feelings are valid and understandable.

 

It’s okay to feel upset or triggered when someone ignores us, and we don’t need to dismiss or invalidate those feelings.

 

 

At the same time, it can be helpful to challenge any negative thoughts or beliefs we might have about ourselves in these situations. For example, if we start to believe that we’re not important or valued because someone didn’t respond to our message, we can remind ourselves that this is not necessarily true. There could be any number of reasons why someone might not respond, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t care about us.

 

 

Another helpful strategy is to focus on building and maintaining a sense of self-worth and resilience. When we have a strong sense of self-worth, we are less likely to be triggered by external events like being ignored. We can also develop resilience by practicing self-care and seeking out supportive relationships with people who value and appreciate us.

 

 

It’s also important to communicate openly and honestly with others about how we’re feeling. If someone’s behavior is making us feel ignored or undervalued, we can try to have a conversation with them about it. They might not even be aware of how their behavior is affecting us, and opening up about our feelings can help to strengthen the relationship and prevent future misunderstandings.

 

 

In conclusion, feeling upset or triggered when someone ignores us is a natural and understandable response to a disruption in our social connection.

 

 

By understanding the social, cognitive, and emotional factors that contribute to this response, we can start to develop strategies for coping and building resilience. Remember, it’s okay to feel upset or triggered when we’re ignored, but we can also challenge negative thoughts and beliefs, focus on building self-worth and resilience, and communicate openly and honestly with others to strengthen our social connections.

 

 

It’s also important to note that feeling ignored can be a symptom of larger issues in a relationship or social environment. For example, if you consistently feel ignored or undervalued by a particular person or group, it might be worth examining the dynamics of that relationship and considering whether it’s a healthy and fulfilling connection for you.

 

 

In some cases, seeking out the help of a therapist or counselor can also be beneficial in processing feelings of being ignored and developing coping strategies. A mental health professional can provide support and guidance in navigating complex emotions and relationships.

 

 

In conclusion, feeling upset or triggered when someone ignores us is a common and understandable response to a disruption in our social connection. By understanding the factors that contribute to this response and developing strategies for coping and building resilience, we can navigate these situations with greater ease and strengthen our social connections over time.

 

 

So, what can you do when you feel upset or ignored by someone?

 

 

First, it’s important to recognize that your feelings are valid and to give yourself permission to experience them. Second, try to identify the specific triggers that are contributing to your emotional response.

 

 

This may involve exploring your own insecurities and beliefs about yourself, and considering how these may be impacting your reactions. Finally, consider reaching out to someone who understands these things and can give guidance or even teach you how to remove these negative feelings that no longer serve you. We no longer need to be a slave to our impactful negative triggers. 

 

 

Talking about your feelings with someone you trust and who will not judge you, can help you process them and gain a different perspective on the situation.

 

 

In conclusion, feeling upset when someone ignores us is a common human experience, and can be related to our own self-esteem, personal triggers, and insecurities.

 

 

However, it’s important to recognise that our feelings are valid and to take steps to support ourselves in these moments of emotional distress. There is nothing wrong with you.

 

It’s normal! 

 

The main thing is to accept these feelings but not act on them!

 

Don’t send that angry message or attack the person who you feel is ignoring you. 

 

By acknowledging our own needs and seeking support when needed, we can learn to understand, navigate and even remove these difficult emotions with greater ease and build greater resilience.

 

If you are an emotional person then come and learn how to release suppressed emotions that cause our triggers to amplify to epic proportions. When you learn how to release fully, you’ll find that your triggers will diminish and you’ll start to live a freer life. 

Help! My Boss Has Annoyed Me

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“Help! My boss has annoyed me” – How to deal with it…

So your boss has annoyed you. Said something that’s really gotten under your skin.

Maybe it was about work?

Maybe it was just the way they said it.

But what we’re going to explore today is going to shock you. Maybe it’s not just your boss that is bothering you. Maybe it’s underlying thoughts, feelings, and low self-esteem which are making their words sting a lot more than they otherwise would.

In this episode, I want to explore this idea and show you how you can have patience, remove yourself from situations when your boss annoys you with something they criticise you with, and get a better perspective to love yourself and not let them get to you.

 

What To Do During A Panic Attack

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What to do during a panic attack to stop it in its tracks…

Panic attacks can feel like the end of the world when you’re in the middle of one. As a regular sufferer of panic attacks, I know exactly how bad they are and how much they can disrupt your day to day.

So in this episode, I want to bring the panic down a bit and really put panic attacks in perspective.

They might seem like the end of the world, but they really don’t have to be. So in this episode, I want to take a look at how you can cope with your panic attacks and start living your life free from the worst of your panic attacks.

How I Reversed My Fear of Heights In Just 15 Minutes

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How I reversed my fear of heights in just 15 minutes…

In this episode, I want to explore my own personal experiences of using the Emotional Trigger Method in my everyday life to stop myself from falling into the trap of losing out on making precious memories in my life.

This is also a story of me preventing my own fears and anxieties of heights being passed onto my son, and instead using the Emotional Trigger Method in order to give us a special memory that we remember to this day.

If you have a fear of heights or other irrational phobias and anxieties, then this may just be how you get rid of them in just 15 minutes.

 

Why Do We Cry At Movies?

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Why do we cry at movies?

Everyone cries at movies. It’s one of the safest and most socially acceptable ways for people to let our their emotions.

But have you ever thought about what you cry at in movies?

Maybe it’s a romance scene?

Maybe it’s a domestic drama?

Maybe it’s someone reconciling with their parents?

The things we cry at in movies (and music as well for that matter) can be used as signposts to guide us to the things in life that really bother us. So in this episode, I want to teach you how you can use the things that make you cry in movies to explore your own traumas and work on improving your emotional health.

 

How To Avoid Avoiding Your Problems In Life

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How to avoid avoiding the problems in your life…

One of the simplest ways for people to deal with their emotional traumas is to simply avoid them.

We all do it, and yet while avoiding your problems often feels like the best response, mostly because it feels the nicest, we need to stop searching for the easiest and most pleasurable outcome.

You can only solve your problems by facing them head on, so in this episode I want to discuss how you can start standing up to your traumas and past experiences, and drastically improve your future, by showing you how to avoid avoiding your problems and triggers.

 

See if Debox is for you!

I’ve designed 4 simple questions that can give you immediate insight into whether or not Debox can work for you.

Deboxing requires a certain type of personality in order to work. And it’s people with this personality trait who see the most amazing results with Debox.

So take the test to see if you match the personality needed to try Debox.

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