Psychology Today : Releasing Your Emotional Pain Is a Necessity

Releasing Your Emotional Pain Is a Necessity
If you repress pain long enough, it will show up in other ways.
Barton Goldsmith Ph.D.

build-up of negative emotions


When I first discovered the power of releasing emotions to
avert a nervous breakdown there was very little supporting
evidence in the world of psychology.


The only reference I found that got close to what I was discovering
was from a psychologist called Dr. David Hawkins
and his book called ‘Letting Go“.

As you can imagine it’s hard to convince people when you are
one of the only people talking about it.
But what’s now happening is it’s gaining traction.
The term Emotional Release is now being searched for
on Google thousands of times a month.


The movement is underway.

Then I find this article on Psychology Today.

“A study from the University of Texas found that by
not acknowledging our emotions we actually make
them stronger.

Anyone in the mental health field will tell you that
if you repress pain long enough, it will show up in other ways
and areas of your life. Repressing pain will also
hamper your ability to function the way you’d like,
and people who know you will notice.
It may also temporarily turn you into a jerk or a hot mess.

None of this is that complicated. We all understand
what it’s like to get overwhelmed, especially after t
he past two years. It’s been a difficult time,
making every loss and hurt that much harder to process,
so sometimes we just hold it all in, and not always on a conscious level.

Like I said, repressing your pain manifests
in other ways and places, like in your dreams
or your behaviors or even your ability to just
focus on a television show. Pain takes over,
so your normal routines and even your tried-and-true
defense mechanisms no longer work.
Maybe you can sleep for a few hours,
but the pain comes back as soon as you wake up.

So what can you do?

The pain won’t go away on its own—and ignoring it won’t help—so the only choice you really have is to deal with it.”


It then goes on to say…

Let yourself cry. Therapists will tell you that
this normal human action is one of the most healing
things you can do to release inner pain.
So when you feel the tears come up, just let them out,
as long as you are in an appropriate setting.
It may be helpful to have a friend with you or
on the other end of the phone.
That being said, some people prefer and get more out of crying alone.”


Repressing emotions or emotional pain
WILL come and bite you on the ass.
It may have already, or it’s looming in
the darkness ready to spike you when it’s triggered.

The world of Psychology is now talking about this
so I am no longer some lone wolf maverick fruitcake.

This innate natural healing ability is in all of us.

We just have to learn how to harness it. That takes
a little practice, sure, but what skills don’t?

The good news is no one ever has to know and
you don’t need to share anything with anyone.

Whether it’s just to clear your head, remove some pressure or
remove that deeply hidden trauma that you keep avoiding
but its pain continues showing in other ways, there is nothing
cheaper or simpler than releasing emotions the right way.


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About the author.
Jay Roberts is the founder of the Debox Method and after nearly 10 years and hundreds of sessions, an expert in the art of emotional release to remove the negative effects of trauma. Through his book, courses, coaching, and talks Jay’s goal is to teach as many people as he can the power of the Debox Method. 

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